I asked a colleague at work today if he planned on getting married to the gal he has been dating for the past 4 years. If you are 30 plus and in a committed relationship what are you waiting for? His response... we aren't planning on having kids. Well ok then... that changes everything. Really at this point is there any reason to get married unless you are going to have kids? And for that matter, what does marriage have to do with children now-a-days? I think we are long past the "bastard" stereotype.
My mom had a "to-do" list for me. Grow up, go to college, get a good job, get married, have kids. I listened and followed instructions perfectly. I didn't think that there was a possibility of another choice. No worries, it's not that I am second guessing having kids, it just was never an option to go through life without them. For my family kids are everything. My life has changed so much since the kids were born. I am not the type of mom that loves to sit on the floor and play Barbies for endless hours. I am not good at make believe. Not all is a loss... I do like science and art or it would be mutiny at our home. Besides work, my kids define me, and my life and that's OK. They are time consuming but lovable and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I have to applaud those that can bunk the typical system and the biological desire to reproduce. Not an easy choice.
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